Gala Darling Challenge #6


“Write a list of things that you appreciate right now, in the present moment. Focus on each of them & let the love inside you well up. Even when things appear to be going really, really badly, there are always things to be happy about.”Gala Darling 100 Things to Do When You’re Upset (The Sad Trombone List)

I love this challenge. It’s a great way to focus on the positive things in that are in your life right now. It doesn’t matter how small or big they are. People, events, things that surround you, achievements, quotes, songs…there is so much to manifest and draw your positive energy from.

The trick is not just to write down what you are grateful for, but to also write about how each thing makes you feel. What memories are evoked, what feelings you have welling up inside you. Focus on the here and now. Be brave an open your eyes. You may be feeling sorry for yourself. Be grateful for what you already have, no matter how minuscule it seems. You may be richer than you think!

So today I spent some time breathing and writing. I wrapped myself up in my largest and warmest winter cardigan. I popped on my fluffy Japanese house slippers and made myself a huge mug of milky hot chocolate with cinnamon. I sat myself down on our couch, lit all of the candles I had in the house and placed them on our Jarrah wood coffee table in front of me. I lent against a pile of soft white cushions and I wrote for over an hour in my journal about all of the things I am grateful for right now.

When I finally stopped I was amazed at how much I had written (3 pages!) and how much better I felt about myself and the world around me. If you are having a difficult time at the moment, or just feeling sad – this is such a good activity to try.

Create the space and time in your day to think. Surround yourself with some things that nurture you. Maybe pop on some music you love that inspires you. Sit yourself down in your garden or your favourite cafe. Treat yourself to a warm drink and some solid nurturing food, like fresh scones or biscuits. Now breathe. Look around you. What do you see? Who is in your world? What do you have? Focus on the good. Open yourself up to the blessings, great and small, that are in your life right now. Today.

Like me, you may find that your life is much fuller and richer than you first realised. You may find yourself feeling much more optimistic and happier than you thought!

“If you can’t fly then run, if you can’t run then walk, if you can’t walk then crawl, but whatever you do you have to keep moving forward.” 
― Martin Luther King Jr.

100 Things to do when you’re upset: The Gala Darling Challenge


DAY 78

In case you haven’t realised I really like a challenge.

I love the way they get me out of my own headspace, and basically stop me from being bored or lazy or just feeling sorry for myself. It’s one of the reasons I like training days, or attending workshops, or simply giving things a go. I am slightly addicted to testing myself, and questioning the status quo. My addiction has seen me standing on top of a gigantic tree with a flying fox, in spite of being petrified of heights; running on the sand for hours in the sun competing against another team, in spite of disliking sun and sports equally; taking up challenges like#100happydays and attending events such as otaku cons or Neko Nation just to meet new folk and broaden my world. It’s also a way to breathe some quirky, wild fun into my life!

This week I went back to work and felt like I had been hit with a sledge hammer. Within days I was dealing with last minute reports that had to be written for the Director within absurd timelines, staff issues coming out of my ears, deadlines being demanded and a ridiculous amount of emails to respond to. The hours were long and I struggled to find any joy. Yep, I was feeling pretty sorry for myself. I had also managed to stress my immune system out again by triggering another dose of chronic uticaria. Fun! I had tried the usual stuff: my favourite pink pyjamas, wine, talking with fiends, sleeping in that extra five minutes. But really I was down in the dumps big time! It happens to the most positive of us. There are times we all struggle to change our mindset, even if we have the tools. So I went back to my heros. The ones that will always give me something that reignites my heart, inspires me or just listens. I have a beautiful friend who brought me my favourite cup cake (red velvet sparkle) and just listened to me for 20 minutes while I sooked. I have a son who just seems to know when I need that extra hug or a text message telling me what a great mum I am. I have another beautiful friend who reminds me every day that I need to look after myself. He’s also very good at giving me books to read. I have a husband who adores me, and when I am flat lining he instinctively brings me hot cups of tea in my favourite mug and strokes my hair.

I also have role models who aren’t physically in my life and some are no longer walking this earth. But they are my go to people when I need a good pep talk: Richard Branson, Gala Darling, Danielle LaPorte, Eleanor Roosevelt, Audrey Hepburn and Brene Brown.

This morning as I hid under the doona feeling like a smacked kitten, I instinctively I looked up Gala’s Radical Self Love section. My mood needed some serious medicine, and she never fails to shift my perspective. While I was reading and journalling I came across one of her famous lists: 100 Things To Do When You’re Upset (The Sad Trombone List). I got to thinking, what would happen if I tried everything on her list? Everything. Even wearing a fake moustache for a day? I have never done or even thought of doing much of what is on her list. Ah, my addiction is piqued! So I have decided to take on the challenge. 

The challenge will be that every Saturday I will try at least one of the tips on Gala’s List. I’ve included the list to her site and list so you can follow along or take up the challenge yourself. I will document the task with photos, a small post or a video through Instagram and it will be posted on my DBM facebook page to follow. Some days I may be brave and try two, or three. But the challenge will be to try at least one!

Perhaps you might like to try it with me. 

“The only way to find true happiness is to risk being completely cut open.” 
― Chuck PalahniukInvisible Monsters

I Crave


DAY 62


I crave love, freedom, to dance in long grass in the middle of nowhere,

to sleep in fresh cotton sheets listening to the wind sing around my house…

I crave to be surrounded by love,

to be amongst my friends on a late summer afternoon drinking wine and telling stories that make us laugh until our bellies are sore…

I crave good food that makes your tongue melt, wild music, cuddles with my children,

thunderstorms that make me happy to be wrapped up inside by the fire…

I crave being abandoned, kissing in the dark,

the smell of my love’s chocolate skin, feeling strong…

I crave the universe buried within the dreams of another lifetime, hard stone steps felt through soft slippers, the smell of freshly baked bread,

singing across the ocean at worlds end…

I crave freedom, to explore, to play hide and seek across the world,

to lay down on the white sands of a remote beach surrounded by the sound of waves  gently rocking me to sleep…

I crave a beautiful, passionate life, where my heart is full and my dance is long,

where I am wild, abandoned, creative, strong,


Carol Espinoza, 3 March, 2014

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It’s a new day


Day 32

Saturday, 1st February, 2014

“I choose to see, hear, and feel the GOOD, the BEAUTIFUL, the BEST, that lies before me, EVERY DAY this month.”

So it’s a new day and I am into the second month of the DBM project.

I may have tripped and fallen flat on my face yesterday, but I am determined to get up and try again.

That’s the deal. It’s not about being perfect all day every day. It’s about falling down and getting back up again, no matter how much you want to stay on the ground or give up and walk away.

No-one really wants to fail. No-one likes it when they realise they have made a mistake, or completely screwed up. Me too. But when we do make a mistake and fall over, we always have an opportunity if we take responsibility for ourselves, get back up and try again. Of course we can always choose to blame someone else and deny that we are in the wrong. That’s definitely one of the choices, and if you are addicted to the pseudo sense of power that this gives you while you lock yourself in your cage of anger and pain, then you may make this choice. I certainly have.

Or you may take responsibility for yourself, and look for the lesson to be learnt.

So today is a new day.

Today I am choosing to take responsibility for myself. It’s a tough gig. It doesn’t feel comfortable. But I promised to live this new life of integrity and I pledged to live as if everyone would be dead before midnight. And a promise is a promise, even if the lesson I am learning is tough, and means I am vulnerable.

So today I wrote this on my mirror in red lipstick:

Do more of what makes you awesome!

Stop playing small and bitter!

Forgive and be free!

“I am ready to be healed. I am willing to forgive. All is well.” Louise L Hay