Gala Darling Challenge #8

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‘Write the birthdays of your personal heroes in your planner & work out a way to honour them on that day. ‘

– Gala Darling, 100 Things To Do When You’re Upset (The Sad Trombone List)

 

I have three personal heroes in my life, outside of my family, who never fail to inspire me to want to be better than I am. They are all quite different personalities and have contributed to the world in extremely different ways, but somehow their stories connect with me. I have only met one of my heroes, (Kylie, very briefly, at a Kids Helpline fundraiser) but they have all play such an influential role in my life. My spirit and heart seem to be on fire when I read an article or a book about them, or hear them speak or perform or give an interview. Their decisions, contributions, mistakes and determination inspire me to breathe through the fear and give it a go…whatever that “it” may be.

So it seems quite fitting to celebrate their birthdays in my own way and acknowledge the impact they have had on my life. Perhaps it will be with a cup cake and a whispered happy birthday…perhaps a re-read of a biography, (Richard Branson’s autobiography, Losing My Virginity, was an eye opener for me) or another afternoon watching Breakfast at Tiffany’s. Perhaps I will take action in their name…make a donation to one of their charities, or do something that I think they may find fitting, like go to the ballet, have a Pink Afternoon Tea to raise awareness and money for breast cancer…or perhaps try something a bit daring like rock climbing?

My three heroes, Audrey Hepburn, Kylie Minogue and Richard Branson are all so different, but all have become creative and determined game changers ~ refusing to become victims, overcoming extraordinary challenges to not only change their own lives, but the lives of others around them.

To me they are luminous and immortal.

Who are your heroes?

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Things I love Thursday

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Day 114 

It feels as if the universe is conspiring to keep me in bed this week. I had a lovely long luxurious weekend relaxing and watching movies and the like ~ By the time I was heading back to work I was feeling awesome, then the next moment I was invaded by Winter germs!

Cough!! ** Splutter** Erg  >.< *heads back to bed*…

Still, there is so much to be grateful for!

Things I have loved this week: Staying home in my slippers and pyjamas sucking on throat lozenges and drinking herbal tea; overdue cuddles with the koala; little puppies~way too adorable; dragon egg bubble baths from Lush and coconut oil naps; being surrounded by my loud and crazy family for lamb roasts and rich decadent chocolate cake; amazing rambling conversations; endless emails with my best friend; seeing butterflies everywhere; French comedies that make you giggle and cry; the thrill of painting again; giant hugs with giant sons; Kylie on The Voice ~ squeeeeee!! Reading late into the night; luscious romantic dinners with my husband; and this beautiful song…

Being Brave in a deathly life

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DAY 74

Being brave is bloody hard.

So hard, that we will do almost anything to avoid it. Including dancing with the devil. By that I mean that we will hold onto the devil we know, even though it makes us completely miserable, and often sick.

I’m sure most of you have experienced a situation where you had to make an incredibly difficult decision which perhaps involved some vulnerability and risk on your behalf. You knew in your mind that if you could just make that decision, bite the bullet, jump off the cliff, whatever the analogy, you would be putting yourself in the best place possible. Perhaps you would be literally giving yourself the best possible chance of a fantastic life.

Perhaps your decision was about ending a relationship that was clearly not a healthy one. It would mean you would be alone, or a single parent. It might mean that you would have to be financially responsible, because you would be the only one bringing in the bacon.

Perhaps it was about leaving your 9 – 5 day job and full filling your dream career. Maybe this would mean you would have to go back to study, or survive on a lower salary for a while, or perhaps you could make the income but it would mean that you wouldn’t have the safety net of a secure job to pay the bills.

Perhaps it wasn’t about leaving a job at all, it was just about following your heart, and putting your ideas out there. Risking everything to write that great Australian novel, paint that picture, become that wedding photographer, direct that smash hit musical, produce that Academy award winning documentary or go on that round the world trip.

Maybe it’s about putting yourself out there in the first place and actually going on a date, or allowing yourself to be vulnerable enough to have an intimate relationship. Maybe you just need to be brave enough to move out of home and set up your own home with your friends, your cat and a single bed.

Whatever it is, being brave enough to take the steps towards your dream, the steps that you know will give your dream the best possible chance, is a huge investment.

It’s true. Being brave and vulnerable is frightening and scary. There are a lot of ‘what ifs’. What if I can’t pay my rent? What if I write that novel and people hate it? What if I put myself out there and I get my heart broken? What if I go after my dream career and it doesn’t work?

Yep. Lots of stuff to be scared about.

But let’s ask ourselves another question. What if I keep doing exactly the same thing that I am doing right now for the rest of my life. Where will I be? What will I be thinking? How will I be feeling? What will I have achieved?

If I don’t change anything; if I’m not able to risk anything or be brave enough to give ‘it'(whatever your ‘it’ is) what will my life be like? Will it be better or worse?

If you are in an unhealthy relationship, it can only get worse. Unhealthy relationships destroy people. They mess with your head, and make you sick in many ways. The longer you are in an unhealthy relationship the more you will convince yourself that you are trapped. And the longer you are trapped the less likely you are to believe that you even deserve to be in a healthy relationship. It’s a never ending spiral. Downwards.

If you are in a job that you don’t like, that doesn’t make you feel like you are contributing, that you don’t bound out of bed every morning to get to – then it won’t get better. You will just become one of the corporate zombies. One of the living dead. The less you feel good about what you are doing, the more you will lose your confidence and struggle to find any joy. The less passionate you are about your work, the less you will invest in it, the more likely you are to be at risk of depression and anxiety. No amount of job security is worth your soul. Ever.

If you don’t actually go on a date, or give relationships a chance, then you won’t learn the intricacies of intimate relationships. There is only so much you can learn about relationships without getting involved with someone. It’s a bit like riding a bike. You can read about how to ride a bike, but you have to get on one to understand the ‘feel’ of a bike and how to balance your body and the bike so you can actually ride it.

If you don’t write that novel, direct that musical, or paint that picture, how will you even develop the skills to become that great novelist/director/artist? We don’t tell babies to get up and run. We encourage them to give it a go. We expect them to fall down all the time. But it’s in the falling down and getting back up again, in an environment of encouragement, that we have all learnt to walk…and then run. Some of us have become Olympic champions! But none of us would have become great walkers or champions if we hadn’t fallen down a fair bit, and gotten back up again.

And if you are still at home in 20 years…dude…what are you doing?

When you read the autobiographies of people like Madonna, Richard Branson, Kylie Minogue, INXS, Martin Luther KIng, J.K. Rowling and Oprah (just to name a few), none of them had their careers or achievements handed to them on a silver platter. They all took massive risks, fell over quite a bit, then rose up to achieve and live extraordinary lives.

They all talk about being afraid. But they were all brave enough not to live a ‘safe’ but deathly life and fight for what they deserve: An extraordinary life filled with passion and joy.

In 20 years time, if you had a chance to travel back in time to speak to your younger self today, I hope you would say something like: “Don’t ever give up on yourself. Because your life is all that you want it to be – be brave.”

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”

― Theodore Roosevelt