10th March, 2014
One of my favourite films is The Notebook, and no, it’s not because Ryan Gosling or Rachel McAdams are the lead actors. (Although yes, both are extremely gorg!)
There is a scene in the film where Ryan Goslings character, Noah, renovates a house. Noah and his love, Allie, have broken up a good few years before, but he renovates the house that she loves. He thinks that if he works on re-building the house that she wants, that she will come back to him. Of course the film is a romance, so Allie does eventually come back to Ryan. But the moment I love is when Noah is brave and takes the biggest chance of his (fictional) life. He works his ass off to build the house that he believes his Allie will love. He is brave enough to step out of his comfort zone to do something extraordinary, even though he has never built a house before. And throughout the adventure of re-building his house, his home for his love, Noah is completely vulnerable; he wears his heart on his sleeve. It’s what makes him risk everything when Allie finally turns up in his driveway to see the house.
I know it is a Hollywood film, but I also know many people around me who have lived in similar ways, who have taken the risk to be brave. Who have been bold enough to be vulnerable. Not everyone has received what they wanted. Some have lost the love of their life. Some have had businesses fail, or been betrayed. Some have retreated to the comfort of their beds and stayed there for a while.
What gets them back up? What gives them the ability to be brave, even though they are frightened. The courage to be bold, even when they are not quite sure they have what it takes. But most of all the strength to be vulnerable again, because in spite of everything that has happened, they have the strength to open them selves up and try again.
As Richard Branson once said: “The brave may not live forever – But the cautious do not live at all!”
― Richard Branson, Like a Virgin: Secrets They Won’t Teach You at Business School